Customs

Russian marriage

2013-12-18 (chinaculture.org)

Value Dowry

Russian ethnic minorities strictly forbid marriages between close relatives such as cousins but does not limit marriages with other brotherly minorities. Thus marriages mainly depend on free love. Although there are arranged marriages, they do not occupy the dominant procedure. In the past, matchmaker and engagement ceremonies were essential. When someone acted as a matchmaker, he or she had to take salty bread to the young lady's house. If the young lady and her parents agreed the match, she would cut the bread into several pieces and invite everybody to share it. Then the young man's family held a simple engagement ceremony to fix a marriage date.

Though Russian ethnic minorities have their own traditions, betrothal gifts are not necessary. The bridegroom's family only needs to prepare some necessities for marriage, and the two sides afford the expenses of wedding ceremony respectively. However, the bride's parents pay much attention to a dowry.

Church Wedding Ceremony

Church wedding ceremonies are usually very grand. Since most people of Russian ethnic minority believe in Eastern Orthodox, wedding ceremonies are often held in a church when possible. On the day, the bridegroom should arrive in a carriage or walk to the bride's home to escort her to the wedding. The bride must kneel on a fur-lined coat spread on the floor (indicating prosperous life after the marriage) and accept her parents' blessing before she sets off to the church. After the party arrives to escort the bride to the wedding, the bride's family will entertain them with some candies and food. Everybody sits around the table and has dinner together while singing an upbeat wedding ceremony song.